While this is supposed to be a “Disney Nerd” blog there will from time to time be posts about me as I think you might want to get to know me.
In 2012 I left my own thriving Online Business Management business called Sunrise Virtual Services because I wasn’t putting my family first. Many people were shocked that I just walked away from my business. After attending the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration on the Road Tour I have validation that I made the right decision to walk away.
The keynote speaker at the Berkeley, CA event was Mindee Doney, she is the creator of Boogie Wipes and JuiceBox Consulting. Mindee had a truckload full of wisdom that she dished out to the room. At times I felt like she was talking directly to me because a lot of what she said I was able to identify with. During the presentation she said”This is the chapter you are in, you’re a mom. There is no going back to the person you used to be“. I vividly recall my mom saying to me after my second child was born “You’re not like you used to be, you’re not organized anymore and you are late all the time”. At the time she said it I was very hurt. But deep down inside I knew she was right. I was a stressed out tired mom who was trying to do it all as a mom and owner of a thriving company. Prior to being a mom I WAS a very organized person who needed to be in control and raising babies is the complete opposite of that. It is a messy, unorganized and exhausting world; it was a world I had a hard time adjusting to.
I also identified with another point in Mindee’s presentation about being present in the moment. While working from home and raising children at the same time can be a challenge there are ways you can do it without ignoring your entire family. There is a way to set boundaries for your work life and ways to set time aside to spend with you family. Once you get on that hamster wheel and start spinning out of control working on “the next big thing” it is time to get off and recognize if answering that email, taking that call or working AT THAT MOMENT is really worth it.
I fell into that trap last year and that is why I walked away. My business as an Online Business Manager was booming, I was busy 10-12 hours a day, 7 days a week. I had many clients and managed a team of virtual assistants while still marketing my own business, running my mommy blog AND being a mom, but at what cost? My husband would take the girls out of the house on the weekend so that I could work or I would go to Startbucks. I missed family gatherings due to ‘my work schedule’ and many times I was sad when working at home alone. There were times when the TV was the babysitter for my first child for and I feel terrible for that.
The real breaking point for me was in 2012 when I had a client become upset with me for not getting a project completed on time. My grandmother had just died and the client was fully aware of my personal situation. My grandmother was in a care home and I spent last month of her life at the care home for the majority of the day. Sadly that is where she took her last breath and I saw her just a few hours before she died. During this tough time I tried to delegate much of the work in my business to my team; but there were still things that fell through the cracks. When the client freaked out about a the late project I KNEW it was a sign, it was time to leave my business behind. The next day I divided up my clients between my team and I walked away. I shut down my website and my blog. I contacted a friend and obtained a job in an office where I could walk in at 8:00 sit in my cube and work then leave at 5:00.
It was a great feeling for a while BUT the creative person in me just couldn’t sit still so I created this Disney blog and here we are today. I LOVE all things Disney and I am an ex-cast member of the Disney Store, I’ve been in the Disney Store Trivia Competition and been to Disneyland numerous times. My friends and family ask me questions about traveling to Disneyland because they know I can help them and I love giving them the extra pixie-dusts of information. It was even a family member that said to me “you are such a Disney Nerd” and thus this blog was born.
The lesson I learned is that you need to be true to yourself. It’s ok to say “No”, and it’s ok to change your mind and shift gears. There are better things waiting for you. And honestly, now that I am back into the blogging world I truly feel that something is coming my way, something great!
Leave a comment below and let me know if you have had a similar experience or tips for other moms who are working from home.